This week, I break down why being too helpful can take away from how impactful you are as part 2 of my 3-part series on mindset concepts for multi-brand entrepreneurs.
In this episode, I discuss and help you follow 6 tips to become more impactful:
- Practice ruthless prioritization
- Cut deep enough to create the space you need
- Try an obligation elimination diet
- Stay firm and committed to the impactful
- Remember that if you quit something, you’re going to be fine
- Evaluate instead of assume
4 feelings that cause being too helpful:
When you’re a helpful person, you may not realize that help can be centered around controlling outcomes and situations. You know how something wants to go, and you can see the value in your help towards someone’s problem or situation. However, control over a situation only adds more things to your schedule and more work to the work you already have to do.
“Are you willing to forfeit the bigger life impact that you may have by staying small and busy right now?”
I personally have fallen into the trap of worrying too much about how others see my help, or my lack of help in a situation. We care about how people see us, especially when we’re used to being a source of quality work and attentive help. However, our uncertainty with our own position and our own abilities is not a reason to overcommit and take on other people’s roles.
“Every single thing we do has an opportunity cost. When we say yes to something, we say no to other things.”
If you’re used to being told how helpful you are, how attentive you are, and being praised for being the savior of other people’s problems, it’s likely that your identity revolves partly around being a helpful person. Instead, by focusing on being impactful instead of helpful, you will have to allow others to step up and into a helpful role that you may not have the time to fill.
“Practicing constraint might allow someone else to step up into that role and solve it.”
FOMO, or Fear Of Missing Out
None of us want to miss a good opportunity, and it can be extremely tempting to center ourselves as the reason something will get done. It’s not uncommon for me to hear clients say, “if I don’t do it, it will never get done.” Our brain has to raise the stakes to keep us committed to tasks we don’t actually have to do, but I want you to consider that very rarely does a commitment in our lives become a life or death situation.
“You’re not going to miss anything, you have your entire life ahead of you as an entrepreneur.”
A preview of next week’s topic: Intimidation
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